What ever you need help with to be brave, we willing to ask for it. Ask them for coaching on doing better interviews. Ask them to talk to you about what they see as your strengths. Perhaps you need to speak with a mentor, or a friend. I need help to succeed on Amazon, so I’ve asked for help. We face so much pressure to be perfect, that we are unable to ask for help because we don’t want to admit that we can’t do it on our own. I also know that many, many other women are not good at this. It’s something I’ve needed to work on for a long time. In the past I have always struggled with asking for help, and asking for what I need from others. Once you address one of your biggest hurdles to action, it become easier to act in space of fear.Ĥ. Understand it, thank it for what it is telling you about yourself, and then try to do it anyway. But I don’t recommend ignoring your fear. It is entirely possible to act despite your fear. Be willing to feel the fear and do it anyway. Figure out your biggest hurdle so you can start to address it.ģ. Perhaps you need to let go of your belief that noone else will give you a job, so that you can start applying for new opportunities. Perhaps you need to see your EAP to address some of the stress and anxiety you feel when you can’t say ‘no’ to every task that is asked of you. Perhaps you need to take a workshop on having difficult conversations so you can deal with your micro managing boss. That cleared my major hurdle and made the other fears easier to contend with. So I bought a course by a full-time indie author, who takes you through you need to learn. For me, I realised that one of my biggest hurdles was not understanding the Amazon eco system and feeling like I had too much to learn in order to make is successful. Be willing to address the hurdles once you understand what they are. These moments of calm are when the answers eventually come to you.Ģ. That means, not turning on the podcast or scrolling through facebook every time your find your mind has a moment of calm. But this approach won’t work unless you have moments of quiet in your day. What this means in practice, is asking yourself these questions, then forgetting about them and allowing your subconscious the bring you the answers. But you can also just ask yourself these questions, and give yourself some quiet head space to see what emerges. You need to ask yourself: “What is going on here”, “Why am I not going after this”, “Why am I not trying to solve this problem”, “What is going on in my self-conscious?”, What might be driving this fear?” Journalling is an especially valuable tool for this. You need to get curious, be willing to try to understand the fears that are underlying your procrastination and delay in acting. When you feel stuck by a hurdle, you need to take the time to get clear about what has you stuck on this. Here are the things I’ve learned, which have relevence to your own journey.ġ. But I’ve learned some valuable lessons from that procrastination. And I let myself procrastinate on this for 3 whole years. In the case of tackling Amazon, I was my own worst enemy. That doesn’t excuse the behaviour of others who may be in the wrong, but it does tell us that it is up to us to do something about the unsatisfactory situation we find ourselves in. The way we act is an interplay between the challenge that is in front of us, and our individual agency to respond to that action. We tell ourselves that no-one else would give us a job with the conditions we want, so convince ourselves that we are trapped in a job that isn’t serving our potential. We downgrade our belief in our potential in response to a supervisor undermines our potential. Because in truth, we keep often ourselves small in response to the actions of others. In the Lead Mama Lead conversation, I talk a lot about us being held back by others, and this is partially true. That you are playing small, and that you are the one holding yourself back. It is a difficult thing to stomach about yourself. In short, I have been playing small when it comes to my writing career. And perhaps most significantly, anxiety about being more visible in the world and opening myself up to criticism and an even bigger fear of failure. For 3 years I have procrastinated at of fear of failure, out of anxiety about how much I have to learn about succeeding on new platforms. But I have been wanting to launch it on Amazon to reach new audiences, and for 3 years I have put it off. I’ve actually been selling it online through my sustainable fashion blog for 3 years. To be clear, this book was not newly written. I launched my first self-published book on Amazon. This month I climbed a new hurdle in my leadership journey.
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